Mother’s Day 1967


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“All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel mother”- Abraham Lincoln

With Mother’s Day just around the corner, Little Darling was getting very excited because she had saved up enough money to give her Mom a big surprise.  Just a few days past she was at the hardware store with both her parents and Little Darling spotted the giant salt and pepper shakers.

Little Darling’s mother had been in such good spirits all week because her dad had bought her all new appliances for her kitchen.  They were one of the latest colors, which were mustard yellow, avocado green, and barn red.  Little Darling’s Mom picked mustard yellow.   Her mom even got her first spanking new dishwasher.  It was portable and even had a butcher block cutting board top.  Little Darling knew her Mom had wanted a dishwasher for a very long time.  It was so nice to see her Mom when she was happy.

As days went by Little Darling was having a hard time keeping her secret quiet.  It took a lot of inner strength, but she did not tell her older sister.  Little Darling finally thought she had found the perfect gift to make her mother smile on her special day.  She hoped so much her mom would love her present even better than her older sister’s gift.

That same day her neighbor friend Barbara knocked on the door and was picking her up, so they could walk to the hardware store together.  They both would pick out a gift for their mothers.  They headed out on the four-block trek.  Once they arrived at the store, it took Little Darling quite some time to decide on the perfect color for her mom.  Her choices were mustard yellow, avocado green, or barn red.  Finally, she picked the avocado green because the nice lady at the store said they would look lovely on the mustard yellow stove-top.  The Shakers were large and had handles on them.  Little Darling thought her mom would love them for cooking.  The lady asked them if the items they picked out were gifts and they told her yes.  She said since they are Mother’s day gifts she would wrap them extra special for them.   Once the presents were wrapped the young girls put their gifts in there carry bags they had brought to hide there presents from their families  The two girls had planned everything.   The two girls thanked the nice lady and set out on their journey home.

Barbara and Little Darling were about two blocks from home when down Little Darling fell.  She had tripped on the uneven sidewalk and skinned her knee in the fall.   Little Darling was absolutely devasted, as her little pal and her opened up the package to access the damage.  They discovered one shaker was cracked and broken.   Heart Broken the little girls decided to go back to the store and tell the kind lady what had happened.  Once back at the hardware store the lady said she did not have any more green shakers left but she had a red one that the match came in broken. when it was shipped.  She told little Darling she could have it.  The lady said Little Darling’s mom would like the set and it would look lovely in her kitchen.  Little Darling was so grateful for the ladies’ help, she even special wrapped them once again.  The girls thanked her once again and headed home.

Mother’s Day morning finally arrived and Little Darling was over the moon with excitement. She could not wait to see how surprised her mom would be when she opened the special gift.  Little Darling’s mom was surprised, she asked Little Darling why they were different colors and why they did not match.  Little Darling told her story with her family all around her.  Her mother’s response has haunted the child within for many years. “Oh, Little Darling you are such a Klutz”.  She can still hear her father and older sisters snickers.

We have all experienced shame in our lives, but not all have experienced debilitating shame. They are two different things.  It is an isolating experience like this example that makes a person feel completely alone, rejected, and abandoned.   Children depend on their parents for life support.  As time goes on debilitating shame is a state of self-hate and self-devaluation that is comparable to little else.  When Toxic Shame occurs all one’s vulnerabilities become exposed and magnified.  Little children come to believe others in their world view them with disdain and disgust.  All children just want to be accepted.  It is very easy to make children feel like they are mistakes and failures and to feel isolated and is especially true if you have an emotionally sensitive child.

Do You Have Panic Attacks? Try this Cool Remedy to Calm Yourself!

Just one anxious thought can spread throughout your mind and create a mountain out of a molehill. Your subconscious mind can control your thoughts and situations that you could manage in the past now make you worry!

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A very special lady named Janice at the Misericordia Hospital in Edmonton Alberta told me about this special technique and, I want to share it with the world. All around us are people who suffer from panic attacks! We live in such a technical, stressful world and it affects us all every day. This simple but powerful technique will surprise you. It will provide you immediate relief and bring you back to a functional state. My research tells me it is called “The Dive Reflex Technique”.  It is a method to calm down quickly and it really works because I have given it a go a few times now!.  What it does is reset your nervous system when it is in an extremely heightened state of emotional arousal.

Fill a bowl with icy cold water

Bend and lean over it

Hold your breath

Put your face in the icy water for 30 seconds

Make sure to cover the area underneath your eyes and above your cheekbones. (This is the most sensitive part of your face).

This technique should calm you down immediately and it is very effective.

Another way to do this is to use an icy gel mask around the eye area, hold your breath, and bend over for 30 seconds.

There is a warning for people with heart problems. They should not do this technique because by activating the dive reflex it slows the heart rate.

Crazy as it all sounds, it does really work!  It would be a good idea to educate your partner or someone close to you, so they also understand what to do if you are having an attack.  It will benefit them to see it reduce your intense emotions and they will witness seeing your heart rate come down quickly. 

Humans like other mammals have a Diving Response(Also known as the Mammalian Dive Response Reflex consisting of a set of reflexes that are activated when our face is cooled. Such has when our face hits the water in a dive or when we hold our breath.  It is a clever way our body is able to manage and tolerate a lower level of oxygen.

Coach Kerrie