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Trauma almost always invariably involves not being seen, not being mirrored and not being taken into account. In the book “The Body Keeps Score”Bessel A. van der Kolkata, M.D. describes “Mindfulness “ is the ability to hover calmly and objectively over our thoughts, feelings and emotions. Traumatic experiences happen every day with children. They might have witnessed a car accident or a robbery while at the shopping store with you. Maybe your child saw a friend being bullied at school or a fight in the schoolyard. Children can be feeling big emotions and may need assistance in learning how to manage them. Teach your children feelings and emotions begin deep inside the brain. There feelings and emotions can affect every part of their bodies. Let’s say they are laying in the grass and they see a really large spider right away the part of the brain called thalamus kicks in and directs the information from your eyes to your brain. Then another part of their brain called the hippocampus kicks in and makes the decision this is scary. Then their prefrontal cortex releases chemicals to make the child react to the threat. And the big finally their part of the brain called the hypothalamus is responsible for activating the alarm response. The alarm response are messages sent to their bodies to release stress hormones. Now they run away from the spider. Emotions can have your child reacting very quickly with a tenth of a second. Your body can respond faster than your thoughts. Signs of distress in children are a tense neck, jaw, shoulders, arms, hands, or chest, throat and tummy aches, heart rate increases, muscles can be sore. So I want to recommend teaching your children from a young age grounding techniques. Because when children age Stress and Anxiety are often the biggest obstacles when it comes to recovery as Adults. You could start by teaching them the 4×4 method of breathing. To begin have them empty their lungs of air. Breathe in quietly through the nose 4 seconds. Hold the breath for a count of 7 seconds. Then exhale through the mouth making a “woosh” sound, for 8 seconds. Repeat the cycle up to four times. By teaching your children this you are helping them release neurotransmitters in their brain, many that trigger feel-good chemicals resulting in relaxation, happiness and pain reduction.
“THE PRIMARY CAUSE OF UNHAPPINESS IS NEVER THE SITUATION BUT YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT IT”.– ECKART TOLLE
The Primary Cause of Unhappiness is Never The Situation But Your Thoughts About It.- ECKHART TOLE